In an interview with Broadwaytv, the father of two said cheating is not even having sex with a woman that is not your wife, but when feelings start to develop.
“Cheating is not even having sex with a woman that is not your wife, that is one mistake most people make.
Cheating is when you start developing feelings for the person, now let me explain myself if a man has sex with a woman for 30mins and he is done and dusted and moves on with his life that ceases to exists the moment it is finished, this means only broke your marital vows…That’s not cheating,
Now Cheating is when you start sharing the 100percent of you with someone else, Now am not just talking about sex, am talking about giving that person Chatting time, I miss you baby, I miss you honey, when can we see again, Planning trips etc.”
His statement caused mixed reactions on Social Media, and he took to Instagram to justify his claim. He wrote:
So normally I’ld see a post of myself and let it slide , but in this case I’ld address it coz it was represented in a way and manner that speaks contrary to everything I represent .
From my little understanding cheating (in general) is when someone acts dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage, especially in a game or examination or even a real life situation. IF YOU GOT TO HEAR THE FULL INTERVIEW (not only 20 sec of it) you would understand that I am NOT in support of men or women having SEX with other people aside the one the call their own.
Firstly,sex with anyone that’s not ur wife or husband a sin against God . However,I was trying to say that Breaking a vow is worse than an act we would refer to as cheating(just casual sex), and when I say VOW I refer to a spiritual&emotional nut between two people.
The truth is, Sex in our age and time has been reduced to a recreational activity,and so sorry to say, has made it loose its value in so many ways because it’s easy to find and to get. As much as possible I preach that we should build self control and focus on one person but when we look at things from the rear view of reality having sex without being emotionally attached to the person can slide as a casual event (still 100% wrong) and still means you disrespected your partner (in)directly,you hurt his/hers feelings and worst of all: break the trust that y’all were building for so long.
But in this case I was referring to people that invest emotions and feeling in some other person whilst their spouse falls into the disadvantage (wether you are having sex or not). In this case the other person (your partner) suffers coz now you have to share your time , finance, and emotions that should be the sole rights of that one person you choose to build your life with.
Bottom line,loyalty is a beautiful thing. Hope we understand each other better now? Moving forward, #ExcessLuggage is in cinemas nationwide. In the movie I tried to use storytelling to simplify the true beauty in a relationship.Watch it,have a good laugh and also understand my mindset of what a relationship between a man& woman should be like. ✌🏽